A Surprise On Valentine Day..

NO I DID NOT GET BUNCH OF ROSES. NO CARD OR BOX OF CHOCOLATE. AS I RECALLED I DECLARED JIHAD TO CUPID WITH HIS CROSS EYES AND BLUNT ARROWS.

Instead...

on valentine day i attended a wedding. it was my cousin 2nd wedding and she not even hit her 30 just yet. married to a mid 40 ol man, who already been married twice with 3 kids in tow. needless to say, the choice of groom was a surprised to both me and mom.

when i first saw the groom, i was dumb struck (for the lack of better word). there he is on a special day and he looking sloppy with his wiry white/grey hair (that happen to pass his shoulder) all over looking unkempt. dayum dude, can't you even go and have a decent hair cut?!!! i felt like giving him ten bucks and make him run to the nearest barber. shot, gives me a lil bit of hair gel and a comb, let me turn that unruly mess to a nice bun!!

my cousin on other hand, looking pretty like a first time bride. looking at them together, it gives me shivers (not the good kind). i wonder how this love affairs started. where they met. what the hell do they talk about. what do they have in common besides the kids from both their previous marriage. how soon did he propose to her. was she desperate... ok i'm being cruel..

i guess love is truly blind. maybe she is truly happy with him. maybe he's the prince that been missing in her life. or maybe he just the father figure that she needed in her life. who am i to judge and doom on a marriage that is about to begin. but why at the back of my mind, i kept saying.. surely she can do better than this. we all wanted the best for our love one.. don't we? oh gawd.. i'm such a snob.

in this case, first impression matters... in my eyes, he failed. if he can't be bothered to clean up and look halfway decent as a groom, makes me wonder what the future holds. maybe he don't feel the need to impress anyone, since he already found his young bride. maybe the rest of the immediate family don't matter, because he only have eyes and love for her. maybe this being his third marriage, been there done that... heck... he going to come as he is. maybe he just very comfortable being who he is and if he gives me the middle finger for suggesting a haircut.. i don't blame him...oh gawd, i feels another shivers and the hair on my neck.....

there's a saying, if it's meant to be and its fate that leads you to each other, who are we to question the work of God.

i hope he treats her well...

i know the bride's mom is not feeling her new son-in-law.....lol.. cuz all i felt during the ceremony was negative vibe oozing out of her...couple of the family members had to calm her down and gives word of support.

on the way home, mom ask me.. would i 'want' that type of man. i said i rather be the way i am right now....

does that makes me a snob...maybe yeah....

OMG... it just cross my mind... since my cousin address me as 'aunt' (due to family hierarchy (is that the right word?))...... oh dayummmmm he better not address me by that or i'm gonna have a seizure.....lol.