i was reading a local magazine which according to the article if you have 10 friends or more, you be the HAPPIEST person. in the long run, women supposed to have 39 friends, while men need 49.
now, i'm thinking and counting and realize i have less than both my 10 fingers combined. so, does that makes me a miserable hag? do having more friends makes you popular and happy? well i guess it does to some. to be always in demand for events, parties, get together must be nice. but than again, how many of these folks can you truly called A FRIEND? you know what.. this is my take in having so many friends...
the more friends you have, the more bitching and back stabbing there going to be. the more pretentious, oh lets kiss air when we meet. when they want to finds out whats going on in your life its not because they truly interested or sincerely cares for, but more interested to find the dirt to bitch about it to someone else within the same circle. there's too much drama but than again some folks can't live without being the drama queen. okay okay so maybe this just base on my personal experience... hee hee.
now having said all that, no at this point and age in my life, having less friends don't makes me a miserable person. it means less complication, less misunderstanding and more quality friendship, even if it means i only have 1 friend. it don't takes a lot to makes me happy, i can write list of things that makes me happy but that's really not the point of it.
i guess what i'm saying in my own words and thought is.... i can easily be happy and easily be upset, its a balance of both things. no one is happy 24/7 unless you been sniffing on coke and seeing purple haze all day .. uhh... yeah.. u be freaking happy. so no i don't need to be surrounded by 39 friends to make my existence happy... cuz at the end of the day... its up to me to makes me happy =:O)
(while writing this post, i'm just contented. but than i remembers the box of chocolate from hawaii cooling it my fridge.. i have a dam big grin on my face.. so yeah.. i'm happy).
now, i'm thinking and counting and realize i have less than both my 10 fingers combined. so, does that makes me a miserable hag? do having more friends makes you popular and happy? well i guess it does to some. to be always in demand for events, parties, get together must be nice. but than again, how many of these folks can you truly called A FRIEND? you know what.. this is my take in having so many friends...
the more friends you have, the more bitching and back stabbing there going to be. the more pretentious, oh lets kiss air when we meet. when they want to finds out whats going on in your life its not because they truly interested or sincerely cares for, but more interested to find the dirt to bitch about it to someone else within the same circle. there's too much drama but than again some folks can't live without being the drama queen. okay okay so maybe this just base on my personal experience... hee hee.
now having said all that, no at this point and age in my life, having less friends don't makes me a miserable person. it means less complication, less misunderstanding and more quality friendship, even if it means i only have 1 friend. it don't takes a lot to makes me happy, i can write list of things that makes me happy but that's really not the point of it.
i guess what i'm saying in my own words and thought is.... i can easily be happy and easily be upset, its a balance of both things. no one is happy 24/7 unless you been sniffing on coke and seeing purple haze all day .. uhh... yeah.. u be freaking happy. so no i don't need to be surrounded by 39 friends to make my existence happy... cuz at the end of the day... its up to me to makes me happy =:O)
(while writing this post, i'm just contented. but than i remembers the box of chocolate from hawaii cooling it my fridge.. i have a dam big grin on my face.. so yeah.. i'm happy).
3 comments:
well friends can be many things
It depends on the definition
there are people who are definitely there for you and that's just a few. But I'm sure you have many acquaintances who you are friendly with and who you hang out with in different ways--the person you feel comfortable eating lunch with at work vs. someone who you would invite to a party vs. someone who you IM once in a while from High School. . . maybe you have more "friends" than you think.
you are right gc. friends can be defined in which category you slot them in. i guess i have more acquaintances who i'm friendly with. and its all good =:O)
Hey there sista Gigi:
I trust you are well my sista.
I am feeling you on this post, and agree with GC too.
As far as close friends go it is about quality over quantity any day.
You be well and holla when you can.
Peace and struggle,
ridwan
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